I shiver a lot every time my ex-boyfriend鈥檚 wife text, email, phones me. How am I going to overcome it?

I shiver a lot every time my ex-boyfriend鈥檚 wife text, email, phones me. How am I going to overcome it? I felt the same thing with my ex-boyfriend. Help me please. I鈥檓 getting worst and worst. I am even attacked when I am in the office that鈥檚 why I felt so shamed when my office mates catch me being like this. What should I do to overcome this feeling? Do you think this is still psychological or I need medical consultation already?


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I shiver a lot every time my ex-boyfriend鈥檚 wife text, email, phones me. How am I going to overcome it?
sounds like you were the mistress in one of those wonderful i will leave my wife relationships, so you have a guilt with it and if you think you can not function then you best see a shrink
Reply:hey hey chill ...u dont need ne psychological or medical consultation...thing is ask urself wat r u scared of so much...wat can these ppl do to u...hv u been keeping ne contacts with ur ex boyfriend? if so then discontinue...n if not then dont b scared of ne hell person on earth....if u have been attacked then y dont u report to the police n first of all y the hell u pick ur ex boyfriend's wife's phone ..just disconnect her phone whenever it rings n if she calls from a new number then just hang up whenever u listen her voice


hey dont take tensions...everything wud be fine ..no1 on earth can harm u when god is with u...infact u shout at the lady whenever she calls u...take control of urself n throw out the fear thats inside u n its only u that can help urself


bye n take care
Reply:i think you need medical help. its nervious attack, i think you need medication for that and psychological too.
Reply:you had sex with married man .


you are a homewrecker.


maybe it time for vacation. call southwest airlines
Reply:How about just telling her off! She's your ex-boyfriends wife. Tell her you feel harassed and will call the police the next time she calls.
Reply:you need to cut the ties with the ex and his wife. Its not doing you any good. If anything I think you need to tell them to move on with there life. Wish them good luck. And move on with yours. If is not doing you any good.To have a reaction like that is really doing you damage. Get away fast
Reply:I don't know about you personally, but If I had something like that going on, I'd put it down to some shaky self esteem issues, which hit me from time to time, and anxiety attacks over what I'm going to do the next time it happens, confront it (or them) or duck out and pretend it doesn't bug me ... or ... justabout anythng except deal with my feelings.





I'd say a) start doing things that make you feel good about you


and who you are


b) tell them you don't really need to hear from them anymore cause you're moving on


c) use your block sender/caller etc. function


d if that doesn't work, get a new phone number (unlisted) and don't share it with them and enlist the aid of some good friends to make sure they get lost, or at least be decent when they talk to you---yu don't have to be a victim anymore.





and oh ya, maybe you want to find a good therapist, you probably don't need medical solutions, you probably need somebody good to talk to and help you work through why you feel the way you do
Reply:you still feel very close to your ex


why don't you talk to any counsellor or friend
Reply:XXX WHY SHOULD THEY BOTHERING U XXXX I
Reply:eww, change your number!
Reply:Why are they calling or texting you? Are you shivering cos your scared? If not, I think this has greatly to do with anxiety in this type of social confrontational situation. You need to see a counsellor firstly, most workplaces its free and they may refere you to a pyschologist who can help you overcome this. But remember my mantra (as I suffer anxiety too) say this to yourself and try not to be tense 'I control my mind, my mind does not control me!' It works for me most of the time, good luck, and think positive !